Its been 37 years now. Since they got married. But I doubt they have ever
professed their love for each other. Does that mean they don’t love each other?
Then how have millions of marriages survived from the past generation. Almost
all weddings in most families were once decided by the elders and the concept
of courtship was unknown. Most of them first met their life partner on their
wedding day, only few having the chance to meet up once before or exchange
photographs away from the prying eyes of the elders. Once into the
relationship, they followed their moral duties to the hilt and never expected
anything. When I saw the same in my household, I was aghast. Belonging to the
Gen-X, I was unable to understand the love behind it until Mom explained.
“We don’t ask for things or express our feelings because we don’t need to,”
she said.
“But why not?” I was still confused.
“Because we get to know every feeling that the other has, every moment that we
have them.”
I instantly thought of the times when Mom would take one look at Dad and say
“he’s not in the right mood, don’t seek permission now” or when Dad would
suddenly ask me to go and help mom in the kitchen and I would find her drowsy
with tiredness or when they both would be sitting quietly in front of TV but
still enjoying a bliss I was unaware of. The list may be endless but the
conclusion is simple and all-encompassing.
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